Why are you sad being single when there are lots of benefits you can actually derive from being single?
It’s actually better to be single and wait for Mr Right than be with a man who doesn’t know how to treat a woman.
Below is a confession of a lady on her life as a single woman at 30 years expounding on how life is without a spouse.
I turned 30 last week. And, I will let my heart out here. I have been single for the most part of my life and other times in a long-distance relationship, so what a person mean by having a spouse or even someone of the opposite gender who they romanticize sounds like an alien concept to me.
It is because I have no idea how it is to live with someone who you love apart from your parents. I came to Dubai 5 years back on this very day (Congratulations to me!).
I was the girl who had never left her hometown and then she was moving her base to another country altogether. I came alone, didn’t know anyone except the HR of the company I was going to work for.
The struggle was always there even when I was home but this seemed different and new. I am sure I am not the only person who was going through this phase but it was me right here standing and thinking how to manage my expenses, how to get a house on lease, how to get a car license, to buy groceries on reasonable price like our mothers do and having tea dates with my own very self or just roaming around the city alone or with few colleagues who later became my friends.
While all this was going on and still is, I looked at other couples and wonder why it could never be me? Why it was just me in the process of turning a house into a home? I am the kind of person who can’t function alone, maybe it is my destiny and its way of teaching me to learn to live alone? Alone? My Whole Life?
Nevertheless, on each evening sitting in my balcony I wonder life seems much better and more beautiful when you have someone to go back home to, when you can count on someone and vice versa, when you can snuggle up and sleep with your SO.
Life gets difficult when every day you have to decide what to cook and then cook it only for yourself, other times you would just not feel like doing anything. you know there is no one you can ask to pay the utility bills in case you are unavailable. Life is difficult when you have to go run places to renew your rental agreement and negotiate with several people on several things that leave you exhausted.
Life is difficult when you know you have no one to look after you when you fall sick and you drive to the hospital on your own or just take a taxi and drop few tears in pain and sadness. life is difficult without a spouse indeed when you don’t know when it is going to end.
Life gets difficult when every person you meet thinks of you as available for them. Life gets difficult when all your friends are getting married and having family and get busy in their own life and you are still going on with your life alone sometimes happy and sometimes just pretending to be happy.
Life gets difficult when you don’t have someone you can plan your travel with, eat out, experiment stuff and just look at them and think, he is what he is and I am what I am and we are still perfect for each other.
Living such life for a long time and having a failed relationship makes me wonder sometimes whether it is me who can’t handle relationships or is it the fact that doing everything alone for all these years has made me such a strong-headed person that having someone doing things for me makes me doubt my own self. But then, it is more like I wonder as how could I be this lucky that someone can think of me as his responsibility and love me!?
Now, since everyone seems to share the pictures of their cosy place, I too have a place which I believe would soon have not just me but someone else with me. Till then fingers crossed.