We expound a lot of energy searching for shortcuts in life. While at times these shortcuts might add up, they might cause us disasters in our future which we will look at and regret later.
These become bad habits, which might make us bitter in our older years. To save us a lifetime of misery and regret, here are categories in our lives we need to fix to free up massive amounts of time and energy.
Not Asking For Help
Many a times, we find our ego getting in the way of our success. This means that at times, you will be scared of asking for help, letting yourself suffer simply because you couldn’t swallow your pride.
Asking for help is a great way to, well, get help. This is why networking and finding a mentor are hugely valuable.
If you feel stuck in your career or need to learn new skills and have no idea how to get started, talking to other people in your field will go a long way.
Even if it’s just shooting someone a short email, asking for help is like a shortcut for your career
Trying to Make A Bad Relationship Work
Relationships require maintenance, but there’s a difference between maintaining a good relationship and trying to force a bad one that doesn’t make much sense
There’s a lot of emotion in romance and friendships, so sometimes it’s hard to tell when you should keep trying or you should just call it quits.
Most people stay in toxic relationships because:
Thinking they have more in common with the person they are dating than they actually do.
Being in a relationship just to avoid loneliness
Staying in a relationship only out of fear of losing the person
There are good reasons for wanting to make a relationship work, but those aren’t good ones. They cloud your judgment, prolong your unhappiness, and distract you from things that matter to you most.
Dwelling on your shortcomings and mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is one thing. Dwelling on them wastes your time, diminishes your confidence, and keeps you from getting on with your life.
Dwelling also makes you more apt to repeat your mistakes
When you think about your own experiences, it probably makes sense. Dwelling makes you feel like a failure.
Of course, you don’t want to skip over your mistakes and ignore them either. The goal is to glean something from them, then release the failure