The baby mama phenomenon has reached it’s all time high in this generation with many having no conceivable issue with such an arrangement.
This reality has been fanned by the growing influence from media and western culture. To some, it happens intentionally while to others unintentionally.
However, there is that downside bit that comes along with being one. Chances are you might end up being a single parent.
We all know single parenthood is not a walk in the park. You have to play both parents, which is not an easy task. You will be busy hustling, working two times harder, so that you can be able to fend for your kids and ensure they live a comfortable life.
This requires a lot of hard work and sacrifice. Your kids might end up asking you endless questions
Some kids end up asking why they don’t have fathers yet their friends do. They will ask you questions that you might find it difficult or embarrassing to answer because you don’t know how to go about it.
Let’s be honest, such an arrangement isn’t good for your kids’ future lives.
You’re your children’s role model, so chances are your daughters might end up following your footsteps and end up being ‘baby mama’s’ as well. This is probably because they do not know how to leave with a guy since they didn’t have that dad experience in their lives.
Your sons, on the other hand, will suffer the consequences of not having their dads in their lives, yet a father-son relationship is crucial for them.
You might also find it hard to get a husband in future.
Though not all, guys nowadays are scared of dating or marrying women who already have children because they’re scared of the extra baggage. Better safe than sorry I believe.
You’re better than that! No woman should have to settle for being second-best.
As a woman, you’re not just a baby making machine. You’re more valuable than that. So, find yourself a guy who will respect and appreciate you and your values.
One who understands what a huge responsibility it is bringing a child into this world. A man who will be happy to play a father’s role in case you get kids. Flee from deadbeats.