Valentines is so near, we could start smelling the aroma of romance in the air, our inboxes being full with heartfelt messages from our loved ones and calls, a lot of calls just to check up and ensure the loving spirit lives on to the day. One will be dreaded to lose their loved ones, worst of all, on valentines, but fear not here are ten ways to keep your love and your lover till valentines.
- Calling your significant other out on his or her BS is crucial.
If your lover is doing, acting in a way you two have talked about and he/she is still not listening, call them out so that they know you stand on the matter is serious.
- Never underestimate a man or woman on a mission.
Proof of the fact that you really can achieve the unimaginable if you’re devoted enough—whether it’s to your significant other or to a bet. Enquire on what the relationship is all about or you will find yourself a pawn in a big chess game. (Hopefully, in dating, your motivations are a little different.)
- Always, always, always ask for details before agreeing to a date night activity.
This is where some of us go wrong some of us thinking that asking for the details prior to a date will turn off the other, but is in regards to knowing if you are comfortable with it.
- Don’t give weird names to your significant other’s body parts.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Do not think to call his manhood ”princess” is a cute lovey-dovey idea, or her cookie ”the lottery” a good idea.
- And don’t call each other by overly cutesy nicknames, either.
“Boo-Boo” and “Bobo, Honey, Sweetheart” gets old—and fast. If you want to call each other by lovey-dovey nicknames behind closed doors, that’s your prerogative—but please don’t make your friends suffer through listening to it. Make sure your partner is okay with name calling before you start.
- It’s important to give each other space.
Every individual needs some alone time from time to time and this gives them and individual perspective and a sense of freedom from the relationship for a while just for a while.
- If you plan to see a couples’ therapist, do a quick background check on the counselor first.
First off, if you need to go to couples’ therapy only a week in, you should probably call it quits. However, if you are going to see a therapist under appropriate circumstances, do your due diligence beforehand to make sure that your shrink is legit—and not just your significant other’s BFF in disguise.
- Don’t make a life-changing commitment unless you’re ready for the shared responsibility.
This mostly happens to a fresh new couple that is either newlywed who are fresh I love and tend to make hasty life-changing decisions that they come to regret later in life.
9. Don’t reach out to your potential future in-laws until you’re officially introduced—no matter what.
It would be weird if your partner went behind your back and established a relationship with your family or relatives without your knowledge and this would definitely put them off.
- You can’t run away from your relationship problems; no matter how fast your taxi is going.
At the end of the day, any and all relationship baggage is going to catch up with you. So instead of trying to escape it all by running off to a new city and a new life, get some actual closure