Don’t be deceived that relationships are always a bed of roses. It takes a lot of work and sacrifice for it to thrive. In a relationship there are always and will be happy moments and others not so much, that’s what coexistence is about, but when those difficult moments come by a disagreement with your partner try to follow these tips to overcome those potholes in the best way possible and in the less time.
The arguments of the couple can lead to uncontrolled situations that often lead to those things that we later regret if you do not want that to happen to follow these tips so that disputes with your partner end in the best way possible and without grudges.
1. Do not hold grudges
As I had earlier stated, relationships always have their bad days. If you do not agree on something, say it, do not keep it, do not tell you to complain about everything and all the time, say what bothers you and what you think damages the relationship to find a solution.
I don’t hold grudges with ex’s and previous fizzled out relationships, so if a friend of mine happened to fall for someone I was once seeing fair enough If they’re happy I’m happy, but just one rule, do not rub it in my face 😀
— Holly Woolfall (@HollyWoolfall) July 11, 2019
Never start a conversation by recriminating, humiliating or insulting. When we get angry we usually let go of atrocities that we usually regret later, but no matter how sorry we feel, we have already offended and hurt our partner, so before a “we have to talk” breathe, calm down and put in order the thoughts and feelings, everything will be easier, there is always a way of saying things while remaining calm.
3. Do not forget the empathy
It’s very difficult especially in situations where there’s an argument, but you should not forget that the person you have in front of you is your partner, with whom you share your life. Try to put yourself in their shoes and listen to their arguments.
4. Avoid Public Confrontations
Sometimes it seems like a good idea (for some) to solve couple conflicts when they are in family meetings or with friends, PLEASE NO! If what you need is advice with a different perspective, share it with someone of great confidence and ask for their opinion, but not in public, the only thing you will achieve is to put your partner on the defensive and make him feel uncomfortable and offended.
5. Go to a new page
When you decide to cut a situation and you are convinced, do not stay with it, let go. If you had the maturity and conviction to overcome or forgive, be consistent and start from scratch.
6. Accept mistake maturely
If you are aware that you have made a mistake, do not see it as a gesture of weakness but as a clear sign of maturity, do it sincerely and try to solve the damage. Remember that it is the job of two to make a relationship go ahead and your part is half the way.
7. Avoid demonstrating superiority
If you think that because you scream louder or think you have more arguments in your favour you have the right to be right you start badly, speak in a civilized way and do not forget for a moment that you talk to the person you love. In a couple always 50 – 50 will be the exact ratio.