Are there moments you felt your partner was keeping something from you? Well maybe he was, men are not known to be as expressive as women are. For this reason, there is a chance that they won’t admit their feelings or thoughts. Both men and women have secrets. However, when it comes to men, it will not matter if both of you feed on the same plate or the length of time you have been together. There are things he has not shared with you.
Consequently, it is most likely that they will end up having secrets, which they will keep from their partners and that actually is a problem. It’s not okay to keep secrets because it can create an unfavourable environment.
Why would men keep secrets from women?
Every relationship has issues, but unhealthy relationships have unresolved issues. That said, healthy and happy relationships must have good communication. You should, therefore, create a comfortable environment in your relationship to ensure that your mate can share feelings and open up to you. This can be done if you allow him to communicate honestly and freely without overreacting or blowing up at the moment.
The moment that your spouse or boyfriend feels comfortable enough to share his feeling and thoughts with you, he won’t feel the need to keep secrets from you. Until that time, here are some of the things men keep from women, you might need to know;
- ‘I look at other women’
When there is trust and free communication at the point you have learnt your partner really well, then you will not become paranoid when you learn your man takes a quick glance at the opposite sex. As this usually means nothing. It’s not a sign that your partner wants someone else.
Men are programmed to notice ‘fertile’ females. Nonetheless, beliefs and preferences on sexuality are affected by education, culture and age. The problem is when they are caught in the act of checking out another woman. They tend to feel not sexy, attractive or good enough.
This, as a result, triggers self-esteem or trust issues. However, if you understand that it is an instinctive response; you will remain happy and save yourself and the relationship an explosion of grief.
- ‘I would appreciate trying new things in the bedroom’
This is one of the major secrets that men keep from women and occurs more often than you would think. Have you ever heard that men are visual beings? This is true and so, there is a very high probability that they have sexual fantasies running in their minds. Most of these fantasies wish they shared with their women. Probably if women considered engaging in the topic, the sexual fantasies would be well handled.
- ‘ You look bad in that outfit’
When ladies ask their man about a certain outfit, most of those times, they lie about their answer. Because women will prefer to know the truth and still not listen when it’s negative. Therefore, men keep this as a secret in order to avoid hurting women’s feelings. Just so the environment remains friendly.
- ‘I wish you would be quiet sometimes’
Women have the capability to express themselves loudly and boldly, something men may not be assertive about. A significant percentage of men are not fond of aggressive, confrontational or talking too loudly.
They will probably tune you out when you are conversing too loudly and for too long. This is because that irritates them. Therefore, when communicating with your man, get to the point ASAP.
It is very possible that there are things he will never share with you, however, knowing the basic secrets men keep from women, you can find ways to make him more comfortable. Creating a comfortable environment in your relationship makes him feel safe enough to share and allow you into his mind.