Love should be the one that forms and gives life to a couple’s relationship, but we know that this is not always the case. There are various reason why people want to be in a relationship or have a partner, either to have possession, maybe they are obsessed, or they want some sort of dependence.
It is important that we take care of everything that is not loved, we must take care of dependency because our health and our happiness are at stake. Discover the clear differences between love and emotional dependence and start to love more healthy.
Love or obsession? Love or need? Love or dependency? Before revealing the differences between love and emotional dependence, you must have some things clear about love. Love does not hurt, love does not limit, love does not make you cry, love does not make you suffer. Love makes you free and happy.
Do you have it clear? If you feel other things, it is not love.
1 Freedom or prison
The main difference between love and emotional dependency is freedom. To those people who feel bound in their relationship, who do not feel free, we have to tell them that is not love, it is dependence. Because love lets you fly freely, it does not imprison you in the life of the other person.
Lessons of Life: Love is not dependency. Or is it ?
— Shekhar Kapur (@shekharkapur) June 17, 2013
2 Want or need
You can notice the emotional dependence on your attitude towards the couple. Do you want it or do you need it? Phrases like “I can not live without you” or “Without you I’m nothing” are fine for songs and poems, but not for real life. Wanting or wishing your partner is not the same as needing it.
3 Company or loneliness
That need is also seen when you are with your partner to avoid loneliness. You’re not with that person because you enjoy their company, but because you’re terrified of being alone. You are not happy in your relationship, your partner makes you suffer, but even so, you do not dare to break because loneliness seems much worse than what you are living.
How do love and emotional dependency differ?
4 Laughs or tears
Forget about that saying that whoever loves you will make you cry. If someone loves you, they will make everything except make you cry, or suffer, or distress you.
If someone loves you, they will make you laugh and enjoy.
5 Fellowship or possession
Emotional dependence is linked to a feeling of possession that has little to do with the companionship of true love. Take care of having a life partner better than a boyfriend. And give him wings, give him space, because your partner is not yours. Because you can not own free people.
Love isn’t needing or depending on someone. Love has no dependency. Love is knowing you can live without someone, but not wanting to.
— Joey Swoll (@TheJoeySwoll) January 6, 2016
6 How is your self-esteem?
Self-esteem is a perfect meter to distinguish between love or emotional dependency. True love raises your self-esteem, while dependence sinks it to hell.
If your partner does not value you and you continue with her, it is not because you love her, it is because you need her.
7 Think about you or forget about me
When you love someone and especially when you fall in love, you continually think about that person. But you do not forget yourself. You forget yourself, your life, your friends, your way of being when you depend on someone when you need their approval when you are not independent.
Unconditional love asks nothing in return, creates no debt or dependency. It simply exists, a pure energy entwining loved ones for eternity.
— Dr. Brian Weiss (@DrBrianWeiss) June 17, 2017
8 Fantasy or reality
Real love is real, you feel it. You see the good and bad things about the other person. Dependence, on the other hand, is closely linked to that idealization that is made of the other person, of love or of the concept of a couple’s relationship.
Do not miss out on your fantasy and enjoy real love.