That moment when you meet the parents of your partner for the very first time can be quite intimidating. When someone exhibits one or all of certain bad behaviours on such an occasion, the person puts himself or herself at the risk of having the parents of the partner have some emotional barriers. That can make the process of establishing their long-term relationship a bit more difficult.
Ensuring that you make a good first impression is therefore important. Below are some behaviours people should avoid when they are meeting their prospective in-laws.
Meeting them when you are wasted
It’s wrong to meet your partner’s parents when you are intoxicated or go-ahead to get intoxicated the first time you meet them. Just like if you attended an interview would you go ahead and have it while intoxicated? It sends to the parents of your partner a signal test that you are unable to make the right decisions and you are also not able to control yourself. You need to be coherent, authentic and present when you are meeting them and you can’t do any of that in an intoxicated state.
Excessive Public Display of Affection
There is absolutely nothing wrong with publicly displaying your affection for your loved one. However, there is the appropriate place and time for that, and when you are in front of your in-laws might not be the best for that. Simple acts such as holding hands and light touches are sweet manners of communicating your respect and care for your partner and also their parents. Public display of affection isn’t wrong in itself but you don’t have to make it excessive.
Talking about controversial topics
It is advised that you don’t talk about controversial topics such as politics, intimacy or religion. Even if you and your partner actually have similar views, you shouldn’t assume their parents share similar views. In fact, in a case where you are aware that you share similar views with them, some still deem bringing up the topics, in that case, a poor decision.
Talking about intimacy or your intimacy life isn’t also right. Even in a case where they actually bring up such talks, you shouldn’t contribute until your relationship with them is more solid. Avoid talking or making references to your sex life as most of them would rather not hear about it. The first day you meet the parents of your partner isn’t the time to talk about politics and religion
Telling lies or exaggerating
Pretending to be who you are not is a terrible mistake and it may cause your mate to get upset. There is a probability that you’ll get discovered and that can have an adverse effect on your relationship. Provided your partner is okay with who you are, that should suffice for the parents as well.
Remaining on your phone
You should avoid remaining glued to your phone, going through social media, checking mails and texting. This may send a message to your partner’s parents that you do not have an interest in knowing them better.
Being close minded
Your partner is an entirely different person who has a background different from yours. You should endeavor to meet them with a totally open mind. Do not expect your partner’s parents to turn out to be like yours. Being impatient or intolerant with their own perspectives can ruin your chances of subsequently building a close relationship with them. Remain open-minded when meeting your partner’s parents.
Leaving them to clear the table
Do not sit after dinner and expect them to be the ones clearing the table for you. You should offer to help them clean up. Not doing this might send them the message that you won’t make a good team player.
Talking about money
Talking about money isn’t ideal and can come off as rude. As soon as you have established a connection first, quite a number of people will be okay telling you how much it costs to get their watch. However, when meeting people a first time the best approach is to stay off financial matters.
Talking all about yourself
While the parents of partners are most likely interested in knowing more about you, that doesn’t mean they are interested in listening to just the story of your life for the entire period. It is advised that you try to strike a balance in the conversation. You can do that by asking them different questions that indicate you also have interest in knowing them.