Media personality Janet Mbugua let the world know her long battle with endometriosis that made her skip work and school days. Through a series of posts on Instagram, the former news anchor revealed that she had extremely painful menses but getting a diagnosis was such a relief.
Dismissing taboos around menstruation and being able to talk openly about health issues leads to better understanding, better health and stronger relationships with the women in your life.
Men can be champions who stretch the status quo of myths, misconceptions and cultural beliefs that promote shame, fear, indignity and discomfort for women and girls during menstruation. Below are five ways men can actively support women in their lives during the menses;
Be a Gentleman…Get Her Fresh Pads!
Forget the men looking at you like some sort of a chameleon when you pick your pads! On the other hand, your lady will fall head over heels for you. If you can pick out her pads like your ABCs..
Every woman prefers a certain type of towels for many healthy reasons. Knowing the type she prefers to use and bringing them to her is a gesture that will be greatly appreciated. Be more informed and ask her questions on why she likes certain kind over the others.
Know her cycle
This is very important as it determines a lot of factors in a relationship. Ask her about the timing of her cycle to understand when she is ovulating or bleeding. By knowing her cycle, you can be more aware and sensitive to her changing moods and physical discomfort. Mark your calendar so as to stay in the know. She will feel your presence in her monthly struggles and develop deeper trust.
Do not make fun at her cramping experience
They say laughter is a good medicine and it is okay trying to make her laugh, but do not make fun about ‘being that time of the month again.’ This is not being supportive rather it is judging, shaming and being insensitive to her feelings. Don’t joke on her being moody. It is a delicate period and you don’t want her disconnecting from you.
Help her with daily chores
Menstrual pains and physical discomfort are inevitable for every women. This period is excruciating and some women get worse that they can’t perform their responsibilities as they normally do. A man can help a woman create a cozy environment for her, cook her comfort food, do the dishes and pick up the groceries.
Don’t run away from her emotions
Many women like more space with menstruating but its best to take cues from her. Don’t just run off to the bar with the guys believing that’s best. If she wants you to leave, she will most likely ask for space. She may act like she doesn’t want you there, but remember she may actually desire some tender loving and caring. Your full presence is the best medicine with some chocolates.