Relationships are hard.Period.
When you are fighting, all good sense flies out the window. That doesn’t mean you should be the instigator of terrible behaviour. With a few tweaks, however, you can stop this behavior from creeping in a destroying a good thing. Here is some shady behaviour that needs to stop!
1. Going silent
Stonewalling your partner does nothing except make your partner anxious and create trust issues between you two. I mean communication costs nothing and it will really help you guys figure out what the issue is. Wacha kufuria watu!
2. Storm off
Wauuu, so dramatic! It doesn’t help anyone if you walk away from your partner in a huff. Where are you going? Storming off shows a great disrespect from your partner. Especially if your partner is in the middle of explaining themselves. Just ask for a minute to compose yourself, if you are too upset to speak to them
3. Labelling bae
Listen, the thing that bae did is selfish, he is not selfish. Call out the behaviour, because the labelling a person will make them feel some type of way and ruin the relationship further. Next time your mad say “I don’t like that x thing you do, it was selfish” and not “You are so selfish”. Are we together?
4. You vent to your friends
What does this accomplish surely? You will talk to your girlfriends and then what? So now? The people in the relationship are not talking and you’re girlfriends will certainly talk and not help at all. Does anyone else feel confused? Just talk to your man. Communication is key.
Ladies, this is not rocket science pris. When you are in a fight with your man just think about what you want to accomplish, whether you want the relationship to prosper or not. Go forth and prosper.