For most of our women they think or rather they have been told countless times that if their face is beat aka kuchapa/kutwanga/kubeat/kuona kivumbi or the common term used ‘sura kiatu’ you will suffer in getting yourself a man or partner to spend your life with and it has been like that those blessed with face seem to be getting the win every corner.
But these are just beauty standards we have set upon ourselves as humans and more so women on themselves, from big bums to firm breasts, to a good hairline and a lush eyebrow as to which they put it that no one has the perfect one and one should look for perfection. What do you do if you are a woman who lives by this mantra and your face cannot help you? Well, am here to help.
Being beautiful is not just about appearance and all just be the woman who encourages people around you to talk about themselves. No one wants to be in the company of a person who only talks about themselves. Give the spotlight to people you’re talking to. Give them your whole attention. Leave the phone, and stop looking around you. Focus on the person you’re talking to. This will create a positive response in that person’s brain which will leave a positive impression of you.
Avoid negative words and hurting people. You have to know that not everyone can handle the truth sometimes. So, when you can, keep your mouth shut. When you feel you have to say something, it carefully with words chosen specifically not to hurt the person you’re talking to. People are attracted to positivity and happiness. If you always have an evil comment or a snarky remark to something, it will get old. Sometimes it’s better to sit one out.
I think there aren’t a lot of boring people in this world, but there are a lot of those who look boring when they are actually not. There are a lot of those who are afraid to show their weird and crazy sides, so they stick to the everyday questions like: “How you’ve been?”, “Is it going to rain?” and things like that. People appear boring because they are afraid to show who they really are.
They are afraid to show who they really are because they are afraid of being judged. Well, no one is perfect. We all have our little quirks; it depends on whom you’re going to run into. If your weirdness doesn’t suit someone, then you’re better off without that person. If it suits someone, you should keep that person in your life. Just, never, please never be boring just to fit in because boring is not attractive.
