There is always that feeling you get when your relationship seems to be falling apart, you always know that sooner or later you will be single. However, there are times that everything is at the best and you will last forever but deep down you know this relationship isn’t going anywhere so you just have to break up with your partner.
It involves a lot of anxiety, what will you tell your partner, given you they are so happy? Even with those thoughts you are still convinced that you’ll be in a better place alone than with your partner. For any relationship, it reaches that point, it may be a dating relationship, a partner in a marriage, a company partnership or a business transaction, you and the person that you are in the relationship with deserve a clean break.
What you need to do is highlight the main reason you feel it’s not worth the stay, make sure its the objective facts and not emotional facts. This way, both you and the other person involved will not have lingering ties or emotions and hold on to fantasies that may prevent you from ending the relationship.
After establishing the real cause of you wanting to break up the relationship, you can now think about how to say it to your partner, and the possible reactions you will get and how you can deal with them.
Other underlying duties you must consider;
- Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision. Be true to yourself. Even if the other person might be hurt by your decision, it’s OK to do what’s right for you. You just need to do it in a sensitive way.
- Think about what you’ll say and how the other person might react. Will your BF or GF be surprised? Sad? Mad? Hurt? Or even relieved? Thinking about the other person’s point of view and feelings can help you be sensitive. It also helps you prepare. Do you think the person you’re breaking up with might cry? Lose his or her temper? How will you deal with that kind of reaction?
- Let the other person know he or she matters to you. Think about the qualities you want to show toward the other person.
- Say it in person. You’ve shared a lot with each other. Respect that (and show your good qualities) by breaking up in person. If you live far away, try to video chat or at least make a phone call. Breaking up through texting or Facebook may seem easy. But think about how you’d feel if your BF or GF did that to you — and what your friends would say about that person’s character!
- Don’t avoid the other person or the conversation you need to have. Dragging things out makes it harder in the long run — for you and your BF or GF. Plus, when people put things off, information can leak out anyway. You never want the person you’re breaking up with to hear it from someone else before hearing it from you.
- Don’t disrespect. Speak about your ex (or soon-to-be ex) with respect. Be careful not to gossip or badmouth him or her. Think about how you’d feel. You’d want your ex to say only positive things about you after you’re no longer together. Plus, you never know — your ex could turn into a friend or you might even rekindle a romance someday