Harsh, but it makes sense why someone might think that, when partners are quiet, it’s not always clear they’re enjoying what’s happening. Vocalizing is an important part of sexual communication because it tells our partners when something feels good and when to keep going.
It also makes our partners feel good about themselves found that a major reason women moan so loudly during sex is to boost their male partner’s self-esteem, not because they’re any closer to orgasm. To anyone who’s familiar with heterosexual sex, this shouldn’t be a surprise. It’s a well-accepted fact that female members of most primate species including our own tend to be more vocal than men in bed. If male orgasm is a muffled crash of cymbals, female orgasm is full-on opera.
But if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be funny it wouldn’t even make sense. Why is that, though? Who decided it was women’s job to “sing opera” while men just awkwardly slow clap in the back? And what about couples who aren’t heterosexual? Are their silent male partners “trash too?
Women evolved to raise the roof in order to foster something called sperm competition. How this relates to how loud each gender is during sex is simple: the louder the moans of the lucky lady, the more men she’ll invite to the party, and the more likely she is to be fertilized by the strongest, beefiest, best sperm.
