It is important for a man to be selfish when dating women. By being selfish, we’re not talking about being selfish monetary wise or time-wise.
Heck you can spend as much money as you want on her.
What we’re talking about is completely different.
It talks about realizing that women, just like you, are grownups and hence, you should treat them as such.
We’ve been brought up in a society whereby a man is expected to do everything for women and be extremely nice.
The only problem is that most men who do this tend to be taken for granted and used by these women.
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re doing things just because you think you need to for the woman?
If you’ve been in such a situation before, what usually happens is that the woman starts seeing you as a lame man, and tends to take advantage of you.
For example, suppose you were to go on a date with a woman. As has been the norm, you’ve always been picking her up. But this time around, you’re feeling a little tired to go over to her place.
A weak man would still go even if they don’t feel like it. On the other hand, by being selfish, you instruct her to meet up at the restaurant you were to have lunch.
As soon as she arrives and asks you why you didn’t pick her up, be straight forward and tell her that you didn’t feel like it.
You might sound like a rude person, but what happens to the woman on a sub-conscious level is that she’ll be the one chasing you. She’ll be calling you again and trying to get you to do what she wants to do.
So if you’re the type of guy who’s always doing things for the girl, especially the things that you think she wants you to do, then you’re going to be taken advantage of.