You can’t avoid hurting someone’s feelings 100% of the time. When you’re rejecting someone, the underlying message is, “I don’t like you like that.”
I will start with highlighting what happened to Ivy according to the said suspect’s statement so we can be on the same page.
It alleged that it was not the first time Naftali Njahi Kinuthia, 28, went to Eldoret to see Ivy Wangeci but the woman was not interested in him but at some point, she could not let it known to him.
According to investigators, Kinuthia claims he even sent ivy some cash for a birthday she was organizing but she went silent when she received the money.
It is further alleged that on Friday when they met, the girl told him that she was going to her residential place to take off her professional attire. She told him she would be back. However, upon reaching her residential place, the woman switched off her phone yet the guy had come from Thika to see her.
Further interrogations reveal that upon returning to Eldoret on Tuesday, the man said he felt despised by the woman when she refused to pick his calls. The suspect is alleged to have bought the axe and knife in Eldoret.
Ladies, that’s not easy for anyone to deal with, especially men. We’re full of pride. Being rejected makes us feel emasculated and inferior.
Unfortunately, some men will take their pain out on others through guilt tripping, verbal attacks, and even physical violence.
What women need to do is try and limit the negative impact of their rejection. And this all starts by understanding investment.
The more we invest our emotions or time in something, the more attached we become.
So the longer you wait to tell a man you’re not interested, the harder he will take it.
I know it’s not easy and that you don’t want to hurt anyone. I know that you’re trying to protect yourself. I also know it feels nice to get that kind of attention sometimes. We all like feeling attractive and desirable.
But by letting a guy keep believing there’s a chance he can get with you, he’s only going to be more frustrated, hurt, or angry when things don’t pan out. It’s not worth it. Cut things off as soon as you know you don’t want to be romantic to reduce the chance of a negative reaction.
Ivy Wangeci is alleged to have provoked his killer into returning to Eldoret to try to speak with the woman upon which the man said he felt despised by the woman when she refused to pick his calls and ended up killing her mercilessly.
In fact, Ms Wangechi’s parents knew the suspect according to the police, and that he has been their family friend for long. The suspect and the deceased knew each other since childhood.
Again let be precise in our relationships