From an early age, religion teaches us to always ‘be our brother’s keeper’ or to look after other people in the event that they need help.
So much so that many people today tend to ignore their own personal needs to satisfy the needs of others.
Unfortunately, the people who seem to affect us the most are our family.
Especially the ones who are based in rural areas.
Not only do they call you incessantly to ask for money, but the moment you skip sending them any financial help, they start speaking about you negatively!
While I was having coffee with one of my friends, she told me something important that I cannot forget to this day.
“When you’re successful in life, there are people who will still talk bad about you. When you’re doing bad in life and in the gutter, there are still people who will talk bad about you.
So you might as well do what you want, because at the end of the day, people will still talk bad about you. The question is, do you want them to be talking bad about you for your
Exactly!
So today, I would like to talk about the vital ways in which you can put yourself first in every situation in a healthy way. Not in a self-absorbed, pompous kind of nature!
If it Feels Wrong, Don’t Do It
Whenever you’re about to do something and you hear that voice of hesitance in your head, don’t ignore it! 9/10 times, the voice in your head is what resonates with your mantra.
And it’s probably telling you to avoid what you’re attempting to put yourself into. You might just be risking your life!
Say Exactly What You Mean
Don’t beat around the bush. Be clear and concise with your communication. Sometimes, all one has to do is speak their mind to get exactly what they want in life.
Because let’s face it. What’s the point of living if one is unable to express themselves fully?
Don’t Be A People Pleaser
If you’re living your life pleasing others, then you might as well be dead. In fact, famous actor Jim Carrey explains this perfectly.
You can either choose to go to the grave as a personality that was influenced by the environment around them and die miserably, or die happy as someone who you shaped their world for themselves!
Trust Your Instincts
Always go with your gut. There is a reason why intuition was created. It’s your compass to a successful life.
Don’t let others influence where your intuition leads you to.
Never Speak Bad About Yourself
Did you know that your word of mouth is extremely powerful?
Whatever you believe about yourself becomes reality once you consistently talk about it.
So if you’re talking about yourself, always make it positive! No matter how over-the-top it may sound!
Never Give Up On Your Dreams
Always have a positive mentality when it comes to your dreams. You would rather die than live a life where your dreams haven’t manifested!
Don’t Be Afraid To Say No
When no feels like the right thing, then say it!
Don’t Be Afraid to Say Yes
Don’t miss out on great opportunities simply because you felt your were not good or confident enough to accept it.
Be Kind to Yourself
Treat yourself like a king or queen, and you will gradually begin to feel like one!
Let Go Of What You Can’t Control
If something is not within your frame of mind, then there’s no need obsessing over it.
Make the decision to let go and enjoy the wonders of life. Become detached from the experience and it will be that much sweeter.
Stay Away From Drama And Negativity
Keep a peaceful mind and soul by avoiding gossip, drama and negativity. These ‘diseases’ are highly infectious and the moment you become a part of them, it can be difficult to let go.
Love…
Last but not least, love. And we mean love with intention and not expect. Don’t love to expect something in return, but to love with the pure intent of loving.
Only intentional love overcomes all!