We have all been in a place in our lives where the darkness or problems were or are being caused by the people we are connected to in our lives.
They can cause us huge losses in life or even destroy our relationships with the ones who truly love us not to mention waste lots of precious time engaging in non-fundamental activities.
While many could know these and wish to cut this friends off,a number don’t know how and that’s why i have put down the tips to help in saving yourself from these friends.
1.Don’t be sentimental
Every friendship, no matter how toxic it is, has its good moments. Of course you have memories of fun times, and laughter, but don’t romanticize your past, as tempting as it might be. If you can learn to leave the good times in the past, and take them for what they are (isolated rays of sun through torrential raining shit), you can walk away. Don’t be sentimental about those who don’t deserve it. Save your fond nostalgia for people who enrich your life, and work towards building memories with them rather than dwelling on meaningless ones.
2.Be honest
Be honest with yourself, and with your friend. Don’t phase someone out. It also makes you just as toxic as them. The only exception would be for casual friends/acquaintances/party pals who wouldn’t find anything amiss if you weren’t at the bar on a Friday night. But for the friends you talk to and see regularly and intimately, it’s important to communicate your desire to end the friendship. That way they know your agenda and won’t pursue you, or be hurt by you ignoring them suddenly.
3.Delete,delete,delete
I’m a big proponent of actually deleting people from your life when you decide you want to delete them from your life. Because any sort of lingering social media presence is only going to serve as temptation to stalk, which is only going to lead to you feeling bad which negates the purpose of divorcing from your toxic friend in the first place, which is to make you feel good. Delete their phone number, past texts, Facebook, Instagram or any other way in which you’re digitally connected.
4.Make a conscious effort to make new friends
When you end a romantic relationship, people around you will often urge you to date again. The same goes with purging a toxic friend. Find new friends, or invest more time in healthy, existing friendships. Feeling alone, or like you’ve lost someone, sets you on a dangerous course to regress into old, bad habits. Surround yourself with love and happiness and you’ll be less likely to miss the person who was nasty to you
5.Put yourself first
Chances are, in a toxic friendship, you’re used to putting the needs of your friend first, often sacrificing your own happiness and needs. In order to truly cut someone out of your life you need to be prepared to put yourself first, for once. Think about what YOU need and what will make YOU happy in the long term, and do that without any of the guilt your friendship dynamic normally would have you attaching to serving yourself.