The first thing you need to know about how to get laid is this: Most modern women are open to having a one night stand (sex on the first night) with you, without needing to start a serious relationship first or even go out on a first date.
In the past, most women would wait until marriage to have sex, but that has changed along with many other fundamental things about our society.
These days, the majority women are open to having fun (i.e. casual sex and dating) and trying out different relationships until they find the perfect guy.
Here are some tips for how to get laid and be your best:
Get To Know Yourself First
Think about what you want from an encounter, and what you have to offer. If you want to know how to get laid, first know what you have to offer that would make someone want to sleep with you. Be confident in your strengths, whether it’s your humor, or your intellect. Going off on an ego trip isn’t attractive, but confidence and self awareness are.
Be honest about what you’re looking for. If you just want to hookup, communicate this early. Whether this is in your Tinder bio or in conversation, communication is important. It saves you from misunderstandings later and honesty makes it easier for everyone to get what they want.
Meet A LOT of New People
Once you know what you want, it’s a matter of going after it. Go out more or get on a dating app, and get ready to meet a lot of new people.
It’s a numbers game: the more people you meet, the more likely you’ll have a good connection with someone.
If you’re in the habit of always using dating apps, occasionally try going out to meet people in real life.
Mixing up your habits can introduce you to a new pool of people to get to know. You may have a ‘type’, but opening up your pool to different kinds of people will make for more varied interactions and make dating and sex more interesting.
Let Go of Rejection
When messaging or chatting with people, don’t take rejection personally. If someone doesn’t want to have sex with you, or even keep the conversation going, be respectful.
Rather than forcing the interaction, let it go and move on if it’s clearly not going anywhere.
There are plenty of people who want all sorts of different things, so don’t get discouraged if you have to message a lot of people before meeting someone who seems invested.
Once you’ve been at it for a while, you’ll learn how many messages to expect back compared to how many you send out. Remember to personalize your messages to increase your odds of getting a response.
Embrace the Flirting Phase
Dating should be fun. Just worrying about how to get laid can put a lot of pressure on the other person and ruin the experience. Instead of focusing on how to get laid, look at dating as a way to meet cool new people, and see where it goes from there.
Play the long game and just enjoy spending time and flirting with another person. Even if this person isn’t ready to have sex with you now, they may want to in the next few weeks or months.
As long as you’re a likable, fun person to be around they’ll want to spend time with you. Whether or not this leads to sex isn’t certain, however you could still have a good time or make a new friend in the process.
The more people you are meeting and having positive interactions with, the more chances you have for a successful sexual encounter.
Explore Creative Ways for How To Get Laid
In the new year it’s time to shake off old preconceptions about sex and dating. Too much of what we know about sex is from old-fashioned, gender-defined roles, or unrealistic dramatizations from movies and TV. Sex can look a lot of different ways.
Whether with hands or mouths, or even mutual masturbation, sex should be what you and your partner want and feel comfortable with.
Getting rid of the expectation of penetration can make the experience more fun for everyone. And even if you don’t want to have intercourse, you can still be intimate. If you partner feels comfortable during the first encounter, they are more likely to want to have a future rendezvous.
Being a Better Lover Will Lead to More Future Encounters
Sex isn’t all serious business; it should be fun and feel good! Incorporate more foreplay into your sex life. It’s important that both parties have an orgasm when having sex so be attentive to your partners needs.
Checking in throughout the process is a good practice for consent and ensures you are both having a good time.
Don’t fake an orgasm; if your partner doesn’t know something is wrong, they can’t improve! Explore and try new things, always with consent and an open mind. Don’t shame others for what they like; you never know until you try. Even if it isn’t for you, respect what others may like or need.
Make sure you practice good sex etiquette, like thanking your partner within a day after having sex. By making sex a better experience, the other person will be more likely to want to do it again.
For hook-ups and one nights stands, this may not seem to matter as much, but if you develop a reputation as a good lover and fun person, it will increase your odds of dating and hooking up again or initiating with someone in a similar social circle.
Don’t worry so much about how to get laid. Instead think about how to have more fun and form better connection with the people you meet. When you do have sex, make it count! Having different kinds of sex and and being open to exploration will make you an ideal partner for a relationship or more casual sex. So let go of past negative encounters and open your mind to new people, and the sex will follow.