No one sets out to sabotage their relationship. Most of us have only the best intentions. We want it to work. We think about it, maybe even obsess over it, we put our heart on the line, we invest ourselves. Since our intentions are pure, it seems like we should get a positive outcome…but this isn’t always the case. Here are a few ‘mistakes’ why you could be pushing away your man:
- YOU OVER REACT
If you keep blowing things out of proportion, he will wonder how to approach you - YOU DON’T INITIATE CONVERSATIONS
Once as a lady you show no interest in him and always wait for him to make the move, he will do less feeling it is one sided - YOU KEEP TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX
It is boring for a man to talk with a woman that one loves and she keeps bringing her ex in the conversations, especially praising him or talking as if she is stuck in the past - YOU JUDGE HIM
If he feels that you keep vilifying him when he opens up to you, he will share with you less - . YOU GOSSIP
Your man will tell you less when he realizes that what he shares with you, you end up sharing with your friends
- YOU ARE A ONE ISSUE WOMAN
If you are fixated on one issue which you keep complaining about, your man will get bored. Learn to be diverse in your conversations and complain less
- YOU ARE OVER EMOTIONAL
It is healthy to be emotional but when you become over emotional and over sensitive, your man will struggle to tell you things fearing you cannot handle them. - YOU ARE ARGUMENTATIVE
If you turn a simple conversation into a nasty confrontation, to keep his peace, he will talk less - YOU DON’T LISTEN
If you are the kind of lady who always wants to be heard and you rarely take time to hear you man out and find out how he’s been, if it is all about you and then you accuse him for not loving you when he doesn’t do what you ask when you ask, he will tolerate conversations with you instead of enjoying them
- YOU HAVE WALLS
If you keep pushing him away due to your fears, trustissues, or stereotyping that he is just like every other man and he will not understand you despite how well he treats you, he will get tired - YOU ARE POSSESIVE
If you are all up in his space, choking his comfort, driven with paranoia, micromanaging him because you fear he will find a woman more exciting than you, it will hurt him that you don’t trust him and you expect the worse from him. You are making him uncomfortable and robbing his peace
- YOU OVER THINK
If you are the kind of woman who over analyzes issues to the point that no decision actually gets made and even when a decision is made you live in constant fear that it might go wrong. You might make him consider what he can tell you and what he shouldn’t