A REAL man is a pillar of support to his wife, not a hole of depression.
Your boyfriend may look like a man, but if his actions seem to reflect those of a 17-year-old boy, you may have yourself a “man-child.” We’re not talking about a guy who loves to play video games all day and eat Cap’n Crunch for dinner; this is about the deeper issues that can prevent you from having the relationship you want and deserve—now and in the future.
Not sure whether this term accurately describes your guy? Here are 5 signs you’re in a relationship with a man-child.
SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIAGE FOR MEN
1. Rejecting food when there’s an issue
2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head
3. Issuing threats
4. Reporting your wife to friends and family
5. Keeping malice
6. Not helping with house choresMen, Grow up?
— Kao Chic (@Emmah017) November 26, 2018
1. Rejecting food when there’s an issue:
????..kukula na ‘KUKULA’ zinaambatana sako kwa bako na ni basic needs/right
— Ꝟḯḵ ??™ (@Vik_Jakabuoch) November 26, 2018
Mr. Husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refused to eat because you are angry. It’s one of the greatest signs of immaturity; it’s time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason.
Hehe..kumbe i’ve grown up?..kupika ugali pia inaeza kua categorised under helping with house chores???
— Ꝟḯḵ ??™ (@Vik_Jakabuoch) November 26, 2018
You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.
2.Telling your wife severally that you are the head:
May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.
3.Issuing threats:
Beating, verbally abusing your wife, Issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marring another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman “part, play the “matured man”.
4.Reporting your wife friends and family:
When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. By the way, are you a reporter answer my question?
5.Keeping malice:
Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticize, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a “big boy” who’s in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.
6.Not helping with house chores:
I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home. However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys.
Once in a while naweza, lakini io ya mazoeano ati inakua ni masharti tunashare house chores, ata siwezi ng’ang’ana..naamua nakua tu dayscholar kwa io nyumba aki ata kama nyumba ni yangu
— Ꝟḯḵ ??™ (@Vik_Jakabuoch) November 26, 2018
Some men don’t even say “thank you” to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It’s a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal meals; a big shame.
The main point is?