Let’s start with a little back story we are all too familiar with.
You saw a picture of him/her on social media. You liked what you saw. You took no precautions and went ahead to either like all his/her pics or comment, or both, just so he/she could take notice of you.
And of course, it worked to your favour.
He/she hits you up with a smile in the DM. You know what’s about to go down from there. You’re already halfway the marathon once the conversation moves from the DM to getting each other’s contacts, calling, texting, the vibe is just flowing and you are feeling like you on top of the world at that moment.
The few times you’ve had video chat (because technology) he/she is looking as good as the pics you saw and have been seeing because the stalker in you can’t resist.
And then y’all decide to meet up FINALLY. It’s been quite some time and you’re both ready to see where it goes with time. The day comes and you put on your best fit yet, clean up real good, spray some heavenly sent perfume and you’re on your way, excited but you’re anxious, you feel like you know this person and yet you really don’t at the same time.
And then you see him/ her. And your face drops.
And several things go through your mind as y’all officially meet to grab a bite or something.
1. Can you overlook how he looks?
Yes, he probably didn’t post that he is missing a tooth on his photos. He looked leaner on his photos, you didn’t see his pot, he is too skinny and kumbe he has a big head? Well, all these differences you have noted are they things you can overlook?
2. Does his online personality match his real personality?
He may have been funny online and then in real life, he is just boring. If he doesn’t seem like the same person then maybe you should meet a few more times to conclude if he is boring or not. The first time he may be too nervous after all, most people hide their personalities behind their phones.
3. Tell him he looks different
Be like “wow, why do you look so different?” I am sure he will get the picture especially if he asks “in a good way?” please just shrug and laugh nervously, he will get that you’re not impressed.
A man who posted so many false looking photos of himself may also have things that he is hiding about himself. Ask him and verify about the things he put in his profile, is he really a doctor?
5. If it’s not cutting it please block, delete and move on
If things don’t add up then just delete, block and move on because you don’t need to be catfished in 2019.
Online dating always has its own risks. You need to meet someone to know if they are real and if you find out they are real but boring that’s something else altogether. At the end of the day take time to know someone and decide what you can work with and you can’t.