We know ghosting is a term that partly describes the phenomenon of mostly vanishing after a few dates or even a few messages. But ghosting only describes the fact of the mysterious exit with no reasons given.
Because of people ghost when things seem to be going well, poorly or anywhere in between, it isn’t specific enough to describe the unique scenario where you would put money on a person calling again, so strong was that juice.
People go on dates for a lot of reasons, but one big reason is to meet someone they want to have sex with or date, maybe even both. These encounters can be comically bad, thrillingly compatible or something boring and in the middle, but what they shouldn’t be is one person fawning all over the other person like they’ve found the love of their life only to then ghost you.
It’s not just someone being complimentary and flattering; it’s someone faking being totally smitten when they aren’t. It’s the worst of the love crimes in many ways because a lot of people can act charming just for sex, but only a certain breed of total phony will cry, love.
But the reason they ditch is that, somehow, they were just “in the moment and weren’t thinking things through. While, of course, anyone retains the right to be charming or be charmed, we should make clear divisions about an individual’s ability to make extreme declarations of falling hard for someone on such short notice. There is still a reason to play it cool and hang out a few times before jumping into the whole package.