Many of us want a relationship but at a subconscious level, you are not ready for a serious relationship even if you feel ready.
Here are seven undeniable signs that you are not ready for a relationship:
1. You Are Still Not Over Your Ex
If you are still scarred by your last relationship and keep ruminating on how things went down, you are not ready for another one. Heal the wounds of your past before getting on the love boat again.
2. You Have Huge Demands of Your Partner
Standards are good but people who are not ready for a relationship often have a long list of things they desire from a partner. They will often nitpick and find fault in their partner and if the person doesn’t match up to their expectations, they will bolt.
3. You Love the Chase
The chase can be exciting but if you are more thrilled by it that the prize, then you are not ready for a relationship. A person who is not ready for a relationship will abandon the ship when things get serious.
4. You Are Flaky
Do you bail out on dates? Then you are not ready for a relationship.
5. You Thrive on Drama
On an unconscious level, you are excited by chaotic and unavailable men. If emotionally unavailable or married men rock your boat, then it’s a sign that you are not ready for a relationship.
6. You Think of Relationships as A Prison
If you think of relationships as a shackle to your happiness, then you are just not there yet when it comes to committing to someone.
7. You Are Not Happy with Yourself
You are responsible for your happiness.
Before getting into a relationship you need to love and be happy with yourself. Expecting someone to be your source of happiness adds an unnecessary yoke to a relationship.
Speaking on his marriage to Jada Pinkette-Smith, Will Smith said that one’s happiness in a relationship is their responsibility.
“Her (Jada’s) happiness was her responsibility and my happiness was my responsibility and we decided that we were going to find our individual internal, private joy and then we were going to present ourselves to the relationship and to each other, already happy. Not coming to each other, begging with empty cups out demanding that she fill my cups and demanding that she meet my needs. It’s unfair and it’s kind of unrealistic and can be destructive to place the responsibility for your happiness on anybody other than yourself,” he said.