People cause irreparable damage and burn bridges all because of ‘Breaking up’. Although breakups come along with drama, there are peaceful ways to part ways with your lover as discussed below;
Be honest
Don’t say there’s no one else if there is – that’s dishonest, and causes more hurt later when, as will happen, all the facts come to light. If you are even considering someone else, make that a clear part of your explanation.
Don’t say, “It’s not you, it’s me” unless you are able to articulate what about you has made you come to the decision you are not happy in this relationship
That line is an excuse, honesty is saying, “I’m not happy in this relationship. I don’t know why, but I feel as if I will be happier if I am not in this relationship”. Remember, this is going to sound very hurtful to your partner, but it is more honest than a non-phrase like “It’s not you, it’s me”.
Accept that you are being selfish
Nothing is wrong with being selfish- to a point- but don’t turn it all around and try to make it your partner’s fault that you are unhappy and making the move. Your partner is going to be hurt, crushed, and angry as a result because the relationship is ending not just for you, but for her, and until you’ve each, individually, worked through the ending of the relationship, you still have a relationship.
If agreements get made, put them into writing
Both of you should sign and date them. Don’t play he-said/she-said games.
“Let’s be friends” so rarely works it should be termed impossible
Don’t try it. You can be friendly, you can be polite, but being friends doesn’t work. Don’t even suggest it.
Make the break as clean as possible
Understand that there are no one gets out without scars- not even you. Accept your lumps with good grace- after all, you’re the one who initiated this pain.
Prepare answers for potential questions
Know how to answer specific questions they might ask. For example the “Why” question and its follow-ups. It’s also good for you to recapitulate the reasons WHY you really want to break up. The clearer you are for yourself, the easier it is for them.