5 Challenges ‘Mpango Wa Kandos’ Go Through

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Relationships are becoming so complicated and being a side chick or side ni**a is a trend that many have embraced.

A good number of Kenyans have revealed that they do not mind being in a relationship with someone’s boyfriend or even a married man.

Although there could be several benefits they enjoy in such relationships, it could equally be disadvantageous.

Here are some of the challenges you are likely to go through if you are a mpango wa kando

1. You are never a priority

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His family will always come first. Your needs will be catered for after his wife and children are comfortable.

If you are dating a married man, there is a high chance that he is with you for one or two reasons. A married man will not leave his family to be with you. This happens in very few cases.

2.Receiving less attention

He will spend more time with his family and will only link up with you for sexual favors or a quick refreshment.

He will also walk out on you if he gets an emergency call from his lover or children.

You will rarely get the chance to decide on when to meet because you have to fit in his schedule.

He will not always be there for you because he has to balance between you and the other woman he is with.

3.Living in fear

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Your life is always in danger! You might receive threatening calls from the main and this will make you get horrific thoughts. In extreme cases being caught red-handed with someone’s husband or wife could lead to embarrassment or physical hurt.

4.Inadequate freedom

He will choose the places to meet and mostly it has to be out of town. You will always have to hide because people probably know that he is married or dating someone else.

He will also give you rules of when to call and when not to.

You cannot take photos with him or show him off on social media or to your friends.

5. Low self-esteem

Being a mpango wa kando could mean that you are not good enough to replace the main. The feeling of not being enough can really torture you and trigger a low self-esteem.

It hurts to know that he will always choose her over you.

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