In today’s life, marriage separations have been on the rise. As much as men are often blamed for being chaotic, there are some characters in women which lead to trouble in marriage. Some of these are;
Always winning during an argument
A wife who always wins every time she argues with her husband is not wise. Marriage is not a law court. As much as the wife feels that she is always right, she should bear in mind that the husband is the head.
Using sex as a weapon
Going to bed in jeans shorts and trousers as a way of punishing your husband is lack of wisdom. He will have all reason to cheat on you since you don’t meet his conjugal rights.
Using modern trends to mock her husband
The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of ‘women’s rights’ to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels need help. A man should be eager to run away from the office to be at home, for that should be the safest and coziest place on earth for him.
Using equality in marriage
Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition. It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the head of the home and oppress the man is equal to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home.
Easily influenced by friends and family
A wife that does not pull herself away from friends’ influence and advice or even from the control of her mother and father will have herself to blame. It is your marriage, not your parents’ or friends’.
No longer taking care of herself after childbirth
When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc.
Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defense is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is. But when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU.
Today, you go to bed smelling of onions and pap. You go to bed wearing grandmothers’ clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looking but looks enhance love and marriage. There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don’t be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase.
Children replacing husband’s position
If your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband, you need prayers. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you also need to be pitied.