Why your on and off relationship is complete Baggage

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What comes into mind when you think about on and off relationships? Think of it more like you being in a dark room and having a switch. As much as we all have our own reasons why we engage in a relationship, they should not work like switches.

If you happen to operate your relationship that way, it creates uncertainty for both partners. In the sense where you want to take a break anytime, you feel like, switching on and off during situations.

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The truth is most breaks usually end up in a breakup. And if you are deciding to take a break, there’s a good chance you will break up. If you try to use a break as a manipulation tactic to gain power over your partner, you may find yourself in a breakup that you never really wanted.

If the break was geared by an argument, how about if you lowered your ego and identified how to solve the issue like the lovers you were before everything came Grambling down.

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For people who are in a constant loop of breaking up and getting back together, it is vital that they analyze their relationship from a rational perspective instead of a romantic one. One of the major issues that are strongly associated with this kind of pattern is that one of the partners does not get reassurance that the relationship is going to work.

Additionally, it further cultivates any insecurities that either of the partners has regarding their significant other. Not only does one begin to question themselves regarding their significance in the relationship, but also makes the individual wonder why they are being mistreated by their partner.

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This, in turn, fosters negative emotions such as jealousy, causing anxiety and worst, might even result in depression. Indeed, on and off relationships can also be a strong indicator that the two partners are incompatible. Rather, their passion is more on an intimate level, hence the reason why partners keep coming back for more.

This results in a push-pull dynamic that is quite common in physically and emotionally abusive relationships. Hence, when thinking of rekindling a relationship that had not worked out well the first time, it is important that you first analyze the dynamics that led to a breakup in the first place.

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Individuals who are thinking of getting back with their ex-partner should first have a clear conversation with them regarding what went wrong in the first place.

Moreover, they should address the possibility as to whether these situations could happen the second time around. Honestly, it would not be wise to have a reincarnation of a toxic relationship, would it? No matter how much passion and attraction you still feel for your ex-partner!

Do you think it’s advisable to have on and off moments in a relationship? Let us know what you think in the comment section.

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