You only got yourself to blame! Why you have recurrent break-ups

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Everyone should have an understanding before making any commitments that no one is perfect. We are always fighting with love. Most of us have faced a lot of rejections and instead, we continue to desire and seek it. Always start a relationship by asking: Do I have hidden reasons to want to relate to this person?

Am I trying to escape something? Am I thinking about changing the person? Do I need it to help me make up a deficiency in myself? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, leave the person alone, He or she is better without you? These are the possible causes of why many people have frequent break-ups:

1. You try desperately to show your love

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How can you prove something that is intangible? Most of us try to prove every time that we love our partner crazy and deeply. And is that love is not to science to prove, it is an abstract feeling. Never forget that: no matter how much you show, if you do not feel it, it’s useless and it shows.

2. You fell in love literally

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Love is eternal; the infatuation is hormonal. Many of us fall into it and whimper days later feeling that “love vanishes”. Love never fades, falling in love itself. Love is hard work and you will end up receiving what you give.

3. You never fix the space

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It’s okay to give in from time to time, sometimes giving in is winning. But if we let it become a habit, you will end up succumbing to your partner’s will and allowing your integrity to be at stake. What ends up being a conflict.

4. Understand pity as a way of loving

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Being sensitive is a strength but also a weakness. If someone comes and tells us their sad story we tend to lean towards that person. It is perfectly right to love them too, but consider several times if it is compassion or love. Pity and love are very different emotions. Loving by pity is not loving. Never forget that: love is not feeling sorry for anyone.

5. You are not able to express

 

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The lump in the throat is quite normal when you decide to express your love. Become vulnerable by daring to be honest and you will be surprised by the results. Do not say that your partner has to understand; express what comes from the heart touches the heart. Never forget that: never be ashamed to show love. On the contrary, be ashamed to feel it and not say it.

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