Disability is not inability in the bedroom!

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No one wishes to be born with a disability or have a disability altogether. Every day you go about your duties, you should count your blessings because there’s someone somewhere wishing they would do things differently. Someone could be going about their duties and have an accident that will have them disabled for a lifetime.

The thing with human beings is we tend to judge such people whenever we come across them at work, in the street among other places. The saddest bit is we create numerous misconceptions on their sexuality forgetting that they function just like us, only a little bit differently.

Some people with spinal related complications can still have a healthy relationship, complete with that physical connection we crave for. Most of them use communication as a key pointer for a relationship because it is important to communicate before getting down to business. Some people who are abled differently, remain candid about their condition, sexuality and their insecurities in order for their relationship to thrive well.

Here a few misconceptions Kenyans have about people with disability on sex;

Don’t Have The Right To Reject A Romantic Partner

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People with disabilities having feelings too and tend to get attracted to what they feel okay. They should not be forced to feel compatible with anyone, because chances are, that it would never work. People have this misconception that once a person with a disability finds someone interested in them, they have no right to be ‘choosy’ and they should reject that person if there is no connection.

No Sexual Desire

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Sex is a right for those who desire it, not a luxury that is to be afforded to only non-disabled people. Thining that disabled people never desire to have sex is wrong. Intimacy is embraced even with people who are disabled. is it fair to nullify that being disabled would not allow intimacy as part of human existence?

Sex Organs Do Not Work

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It’s a turn off when someone asks whether the organs work with a disability. Most people with physical disabilities can experience the same sorts of sensations as the general population. Not every person’s body reacts in the same way. Just like everyone else, you have to find what is comfortable for and pleases your partner.

Sex Hurts

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All physical disabilities are different and manifest differently. Pain does not necessarily occur on a daily and how would a touch cause pain? Some people want to be (consensually) touched, and if something you do causes pain, they will tell you and politely ask you to modify. Listening is key at such a prime time in the relationship. One should not hesitate to make their partner feel wanted and desired because of certain presumptions they have about the disabled partner’s body.

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