All the girls probably have watched the iconic movie ‘Think Like a Man’ and know of Meagan Good’s character which takes on the chapter about the 90- Day Rule.
What exactly is that you may ask?Well, in simple times, the 90-day rule was created so that women would be able to protect themselves from fuck-boys who only wanted sex from them and nothing more. It’s a bit old-fashioned if you ask me seeing as though nowadays everyone wants to be sexually liberated without any judgement.
But still, the whole concept works.
The 30-60-90 rule goes out to the ladies who rather not live within deadlines and expectations. The 30-60-90 rule is to be used at your own discretion, and when using this rule one must remember to have your ‘big girl panties’ on when things don’t go her way. Now, let’s explore the ins and outs of the 30-60-90 day rule, and how you can use it to manoeuvre your dating life.
1. 30 Days
To be honest, having sex with a guy during this time is pretty risky territory. Consider this the ‘no expectations’ period. Although, we have transformed into a progressive, modern society, men’s views on women sometimes tend to be stone-aged. Although both of you made the decision to romp in the hay, some men may still view you as the easy one. Welcome to the magical world of double standards. Knowing that men can be boneheads should help make the decision to sleep with your suitor a little more uncomplicated. Understand that having sex with him during this period may not end up in a relationship. Understand that he may or may not stick around. Also, understand you risk having the best sex ever that will relieve all of your built up sexual tension. Honestly, the main benefit to sleeping with him during this time is the fact you’ll know what he’s working with, however the downside is sex clutters your mind. Hopefully, you are dealing with a seemingly mature guy as yourself, and you guys can be able to see through all the heat and smoke you guys will create.
2. 60 Days
So you’re 60 days into your “situationship”, and you haven’t given into temptation! Now is a good time, if any, to let your inhibitions flow. Well, that’s if you want to make that choice. By this time, you’ve probably been on eight or more dates, made it to second or third base, and you’re hot and ready. After 60 days, you should know enough about this person, in order to decide if you are ready to escalate your relationship with this guy or not. However, there are a few stipulations to consider when wanting to take the next step. How many times have you spent time together? Does he make every effort to romance you? Do you hope to form a serious relationship with him? If so, will you be able to consider if things do not work out the way you want? 60 days is a great time to decide whether you want to keep him around for love, sex, or nothing at all.
3. 90 Days
Girl, you’re a trooper! You are probably buckling at the knees and anxious to have fun with your beau, but you might still be questioning if now is the right time. After 90 days, it is to be determined if you want to continue to wait, or if you’re satisfied with you and your guy’s current relationship status and ready to become more intimate. The 90 day rule was designed to help you take the time to get to know someone until you trust that they have good intentions towards you. In fact, you may not necessarily feel comfortable with him yet, and he will either respect your wishes or move on without you. A few things to be clear about during this stage are his needs and his intentions. Make sure to communicate your goals with him, so that you both are on the same page. He may not be able to commit to only you during this period. In fact, you don’t necessarily have to commit to him during this period, either. Use these 90 days to explore the dating world, so that you don’t put your eggs all in one basket.
Dating is already an emotional, confusing whirlwind, and then an added dating ritual came out to play: the 90-day rule. The 90-day rule requires that a woman wait at least 90 days before giving up her Love Jones to a potential mate. Yes, yet another way to govern our vaginas. You do what works for you.