Infatuation is one of the illest feelings when a relationship is new. You can’t wait to see your new boo, get a call or a text, or a surprise lunch date.
But then, after three months or so, you feel like, maybe, your dude is pulling away. They don’t call as much, so you call more.
They don’t call back right away, so 30 minutes later you’re sending them a text wondering why they haven’t answered your calls.
You show up at their door (even if they live an hour-and-a-half away) unannounced to treat them to breakfast. You question why they’re not answering the home phone, and drive by their crib to see if their car is there. All the while, you feel crazy and desperate, but you can’t stop.
Immediate Physical Attraction
Obsessive lovers often rush into a sexual relationship before developing an emotional bond with their partner. Because of that physical intensity, they think there’s an emotional bond.
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The non-obsessed consider the possibility of a future, while the potential bunny-boiler has already made up their minds that THIS IS IT! ”The obsessive partner has already determined that this is his/her one and only love who will be his partner for life and beings to make plans for the future. There is no room for doubt,”
You Snoop
Obsessive people don’t respect privacy. They run through your phone contacts and will even call friends and relatives to gather information about you. ”This behavior can begin within days or weeks of the start of a relationship or may not show up until some event, such as becoming engaged or going away to school, triggers the obsessive feelings.”
Overly Dependent
You aren’t able to function–get out of bed, go to work or hang out with friends–until you’ve had some kind of contact with your significant other. You stay in bed and mope until they call or comes to see you. Until they do, it’s drapes closed, pajamas, and movies all day while.
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The non-obsessed consider the possibility of a future, while the potential bunny-boiler has already made up their minds that THIS IS IT! ”The obsessive partner has already determined that this is his/her one and only love who will be his partner for life and beings to make plans for the future. There is no room for doubt,”