When you were a kid, your mind was filled with scenes from Tv shows like The Bold and the Beautiful or Days of Our Lives where the whole dating process was all about romance, falling in love under the stars, and not giving a care in the world.
Twenty plus years down the line, reality came checking in hard. Being in a relationship is not always a bed of roses.
In fact, with the advent of technological advancements such as the cellphone and social media, relationships have taken on a whole new meaning.
Today, you can occasionally hear phrases being thrown around like do you trust me, or I didn’t call him last night that just shows how complicated the relationship spectrum has become today.
One major issue of controversy is texting.
Texting has become a means of conveying information without having to spend more money on call credits and tokens.
Sadly though, it has also created quite a feeling of tension in the dating field.
Keeping this in mind here are some reasons why you should never look at your partner’s texts, even when you are suspicious of them.
It makes you look crazy
As harsh as this seems, acting like a detective around the house will eventually make you go cuckoo!
That’s because every time your significant other steps out to do some grocery shopping or is headed for a bathroom break, you instinctively reach for their phone like a certified undercover agent.
You’ll also spend plenty of time trying to figure out the most opportune moment to get to the phone.
So there you are, devising all sorts of excuses and errands for them to be away from their phone so that you can finally satisfy your desire.
This not only makes you seem obsessed but crazy too!
You seem unsure of yourself
Going through someone’s phone is quite an attractive quality because it psychologically gives the impression that you have low self-esteem.
Here’s a good example, do you ever see the guy considered to be a ‘Casanova’ or the girl considered to be confident of himself, check his girlfriend’s phone?
Nope. That’s because they believe that they are the most attractive person around, and no one in their right minds would have the guts to cheat on them.
Plus even if they did, they knew that their partner would be losing out on a total gem!
You look desperate
Desperate people always go the extra length to try and prove a point. One of the ways they do this is by constantly checking their partner’s phone to look for something which might not even exist in the first place!
Hence, you keep on creating this illusion in your head that the reason why he or she came from work late last night is because they were spending time with another lover.
You are unable to let go of the past
Have you been cheated on before in the past? If that’s the case, then one of the reasons why you might be itching to look at your partner’s phone is to for self-preservation.
Despite your new relationship being rock solid, you can’t just get over the fact that you found some inappropriate texts in your ex’s phone, and now have this innate belief that every girl or guy you meet will secretly cheat on you.
Hence, as soon as your partner catches you in the act of snooping through their phone, they will no doubt get angry and automatically assume some of the aforementioned traits about you, even if all you needed was closure.
This might lead to an unnecessary breakup!