Having a relationship is fundamental in ensuring that you as a boy, mature into the man that you are supposed to be.
Unfortunately for many Kenyan men in this day and age, the reality of being in a stable relationship is becoming tougher and tougher as days go by.
There’s no denying that the aspect of life has shifted dramatically; primarily because people’s interests shift progressively with time.
In turn, young men of our generation have slowly been labelled ‘boychilds’ due to their inability to stay in stable relationships with their partners.
If this is the sought of challenge that you face today, perhaps it’s time you began reevaluating your approach to relationships, yes?
So here are 10 ways to quit boychild behaviours and to get yourself into a solid, long lasting relationship!
Avoid Being Too Romantically Excited
When you are romantically excited, your brain is constantly producing dopamine and oxytocin. This is what leads to feelings of euphoria and connection.
Unfortunately, this level of happy hormone production won’t last for the lifetime of your relationship because every person’s brain has a protection mechanism which requires the perception of safety.
Train Yourself Wisely To Handle The Power Struggle
“Power Struggle” doesn’t sound very pleasant in a politically correct world, but it happens in most relationships.
After the initial honeymoon phase, couples calm down and begin to look at the real dynamics in their relationship. At this stage, many couples try to change each other in order to fit their own wants and needs.
If you’ve been there, done that, you probably know what this looks like. However, not everyone is aware of what they are doing
After you have gone through the Power Struggle Stage, you may safely arrive at Stage 3 – Harmonious Love Stage.
This is when you have for the most part figured out how to get along well with each other in almost every area of your life.
For example, both you and your partner agree that one person does most of the cooking because they enjoy cooking, and the other will do the dishes. Both of you agree that having s3x 3 to 4 times a week is ideal.
You both agree that having a date night once a week is a good thing. Although this may sound like a flawless relationship, there is still a common problem at this stage.
After two people complete the Harmonious Love Stage without too much interference, they commit to each other by beginning to explore a more serious relationship.
Hence, they have entered the fourth stage of a relationship – Commitment Stage. Commitment isn’t just having an exclusive relationship by not dating other people; it’s more about having a shared vision that is compelling enough to bond a couple.
Having a shared vision is the strongest glue to hold a relationship together. This stage of a relationship is best characterized by devotion to the cause, having a long-term blueprint, living together as a couple and being accepted by your social circle as a couple.
Though this looks amazing, there is often a taboo topic within the dynamics – money.