Co – parenting refers to a parenting situation where adults share the duties of parenting a child.
Co – parents may include a variety of configurations, including a mother and a father, two mothers, two fathers, a parent with an adult sibling or grandparent, or a parent and another adult relative.
Co-parenting after a split is rarely easy, especially if you have a contentious relationship with your ex-partner.
You may feel concerned about your ex’s parenting abilities, stressed out about child support or other financial issues, feel worn down by conflict, or think you’ll never be able to overcome all the resentments in your relationship.
But co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children the stability, security, and close relationships with both parents that they need.
For the sake of your kids’ well-being, it is possible for you to overcome co-parenting challenges and develop a cordial working relationship with your ex. With these tips, you can remain calm, stay consistent, and resolve conflicts to make joint custody work and enable your kids to thrive.
And, if you’re divorced or separated but co-parenting isn’t working for you, it’s easy to understand why you might feel like a failure when it comes to your parenting skills.
But, before getting into those reasons, it’s important to understand what it takes to successfully co-parent. Knowing what it takes will make it easier to accept and understand when and why co-parenting doesn’t work.
Successful co-parenting requires these 12 things:
- Clear boundaries
- An open dialogue between both parents
- Consistency with rules and parenting styles in both households
- Pre-determined, predictable scheduling
- Willingness to be flexible when something comes up
- Zero disrespectful talk about each other in front of or from the children
- Amicable interactions at school and extra-curricular activities
- Making plans with the other parent before making them with the children
- Frequently updating the other parent about the pertinent changes in your life
- Recognize and respect that each parent has a relationship with the children
- Basic agreement on things like healthcare, education, discipline, and spiritual upbringing
- Your kids’ belief that you and their other parent get along pretty well