What sparks sexual desire in women?

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We have formed our own theories about what actually turns women on.

A study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, has come up with three key factors that spark women desire in bed-intimacy, object of desire affirmation and celebrated otherness.

Increased levels of these three factors have been associated with women having more sexual desire for the partner.

Intimacy.

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Intimacy is the feeling of closeness and affection for a person. Intimacy stems from affirmation, caring and understanding.

While men tend to approach sex as a way to experience intimacy, women consider desire and sex a result of emotional connection.

Celebrated Otherness.

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The ability to appreciate your partner as separate and different from yourself is considered as celebrated otherness. Having a sense of autonomy in a relationship unlike that of fusion or total unity, will help you see the partner has something attractive and exciting because they are something of a mystery.

Distance between two people can trigger your sexual desire- separateness is beneficial to sexual desire; desire can be sharpened by withdrawal or abstinence and be stimulated by fantasy, hope, and promise.

Object of Desire affirmation.

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Women are turned on when they feel they are being viewed as desirable and attractive by another person. Women often adopt an erotic self-focus, instead of a relational one, during sexual activities with a partner.

Viewing women as objects of desire is partly narcissistic. When it comes to sex, women are a little self-focused. They want to affirm their own sense of self-worth.

Women’s fantasies tend to involve things like having sex with strangers, being exposed, and other things that involve confirming their own sexual value.

Having more intimacy in your relationship, whether steady or casual, is directly linked to celebrated otherness which is also associated object of desire.

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