Reasons why you are afraid to commit to a relationship

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Relationships are getting crazy and almost unmanageable and people would have many reasons to tag up the blame.

Why are relationships failing? Why are people so afraid of commitment?

There is an existing perception that in the youth stages, people should explore and simply enjoy the pleasure before they decide to settle.

Although every one is entitled to their decisions it is important to also understand that actions have consequences and although you might not be physically affected, characters may be  damaged because of the choices.

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  1. Past hurt and failed relationships.

At some point people give up on relationships because of the fear of being hurt.

We do not want to commit anymore because the last time we did  it did not end so well.

Mostly past relationships that were characterized by abuse, infidelity or other deal breakers.

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2.Desire for temporary pleasure

The strong desire for temporary pleasures hinders us from seeing the bigger picture.

Feeding this desire makes us believe that we cannot be get fulfilment by committing to a relationship

When you are not ready to settle the idea of committing seems limiting and one may feel that they are trapped.

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3.Unrealistic expectations leads to commitment issues

We always have this clear picture of what a relationship should be. There is a certain way we want to be treated and the society and the media have painted a picture of how a perfect relationship should be.

Especially for social media, we  have these celebrity couples we are inspired by and we imagine that  their lifestyle and couple goals is what should reflect in our live.

But we are wrong because we are different and every relationship will have its own challenges.

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4. You’re “too busy”

You probably think you have no time for any new commitments, and you’re just too busy to be bothered with taking time to genuinely connect with someone or some thing.

If you are not ready to commit, it is important to be clear so that the people you relate with may not end up being hurt for having other expectations.

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