Do Not Bash Caroline, Keeping Long Distance Relationship is one Hell of a Task

The Death of Dandora based Human Rights Activist Caroline Mwatha sent shockwaves across the country. News that she died from a botched abortion made things even more shocking with a number of Kenyans quick to bash her for apparently cheating on her husband with a man now confirmed to be Alex Gikonyo.

But wait, before we start throwing shades at Caroline, we shoul first of all know that Long distance relationships are hard, when they are long distance marriages, they are even harder. A couple needs a lot of grace to maintain a successful partnership when great distances between them exist.

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Therefore, Before we start throwing stones at the late Caroline Mwatha and blame her for her sad death, let us first try to understand how lonely she must have been to run to the arms of another man while her husband was away, working towards the betterment of his family.

Long distances are so hard because communication is difficult to maintain. With couples not only separated by distance but also time zones, getting time to communicate to one another when you are both free gets tricky. Without communication, the two start drifting apart and eventually may find solace in people they are able to see and talk to every day.

Just like friends who hardly talk on the phone or even hang out eventually drift away, so do couples who no longer talk to each other find other avenues to direct their affections.

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Do not get me wrong, I do not condone cheating in a relationship, especially a marriage that one swore before God, their parents and relatives and the government to uphold until death. All I am saying is that it is understandable that the events that eventually led to her death took place.

These kinds of relationships face another challenge, when the couple moves back together. The two people are usually so set in their ways, depending on the amount of time they had lived together before the separation and the the length of time they were apart.

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