It’s 2018 and time to start putting some really dated habits to bed — like the idea that men should make the first move. I’m really, really sick of it, because it’s way more of a problem than you might realize. In fact, one survey of over 2,000 women found that less than one in 10 women make the first move.
Whether we’re talking about asking for someone’s details, asking them out or jumping their bones (yes, you do know what I mean here) there’s no reason for women not to be the ones who go for it.
I’ve watched so many of my friends, heard stories of their friends not text a guy they like after a date, or get anxious about the fact that the someone they’re seeing hasn’t tried to have sex with them yet. It’s so frustrating because there’s a really obvious solution: just do it. And, beyond the fact that it’s the 21st century, and any basic semblance of equality tells us that we should fight traditional gender roles, there are some really good reasons you should step up to the plate.
She shot her shot
11 months later: pic.twitter.com/4PeYfnrjJe
— P. Sherman (@eastmemphismatt) February 13, 2019
Ultimately, you just shouldn’t be waiting around for life to happen to you. You could be waiting days, weeks or months for someone to make the first move. Or, you could just go for it. And even if the person isn’t interested, at least you’ll know right away rather than wasting your own time by sitting around waiting for something that is never going to happen.If you’re used to waiting for someone else to do it, making the first move can feel unnatural — but practice makes perfect.
Once you get used to it, you’ll find that making the first move can be empowering. And come on, do you really want to buy into a social habit that paints women as helpless and passive? You’re not a damsel in distress; you’re in control. It’s time to act like it. Take control or go home.