Are you struggling to make your long distance relationship work?
Like any relationship, long-distance relationships thrive on communication and trust, just like any other relationship. Oh, and phone sex.
I was in a long distance relationship for eighteen months.
I am not in one anymore.
Being in a long-distance relationship is one of the most difficult things to pull of successfully. Why? There has to be communication and, more importantly, there has to be trust.
Lack of one or both, all you are doing is meeting someone on vacation, sleeping with them and then lying to yourself or each other that you are really in a good relationship.
So while I may not be the best person to give advice on maintaining a long-distance relationship, I can certainly tell you what does not work in a long distance relationship.
Come up with a game plan.
Setting and maintaining expectations is the most important thing in maintaining a long distance relationship. It is good to talk with each other and have a game plan-communication, visits and everything else.
Do not over-promise. You should also give each other the flexibility and freedom to alter plans.
Match your schedules
Some couples have been able to make their long-distance relationship work. But all couples who are trying to maintain their long-distance relationships should try to coordinate schedules so that their partner has time to feel like the priority.
Have a life
Wondering and worrying about your partner (where they are, what they’re doing) can become obsessive, especially if there isn’t enough communication or trust.
Face time
Video chatting is one of the most effective ways to build intimacy with long distance relationships. When it comes to relationships, technology can certainly be a silent killer—social media stalking, anyone? —but it can also be a relationship saver. With more ways to communicate now than ever before, your partner might live in Bangkok but look and sound like they’re in the same room.