How to get people to like you more

You will have noticed there are some people who you just like even when you are meeting them for the very first time. Does it occur to them naturally or do they subscribe to a certain pattern of interaction that makes them more likeable then the rest?

While this trait may occur naturally to a small percentage of people, the ordinary you and I could learn it too. The more likeable people just have a routine way of managing their interactions, and it turns out just great!

So, what do these likeable people do that we cannot grasp?

Ask more questions

Humans have this inherent habit of trying to be useful. If you want to be likeable, quit the habit of appearing to know everything. (Even when you do.) Instead, give the other person a reason to feel how helpful s/he is.

Questions also have a way of breaking silence and making people feel indebted to answer back. By answering questions, you get to notice quite a lot from people. This way you learn to get along with them which makes them like your company.

Keep talking

One trait with highly likeable people is that they tend to talk. A lot for that matter. While talking much in itself cannot make people like you, it makes people free to approach you. People generally tend to like people they understand their thought process. This way, you could crack a joke with them and laugh together.

Listen better

This does not mean you listen “more.” While talking makes you likeable, sometimes it would do you much justice to pause and take a breath. This way you let the people you interact with to take part in the conversation too. Doing this makes you a more social person, hence more likeable.

Don’t hold it. Just Laugh

Laughter is infectious in a way. Unless you are in the middle of a thick forest at night and you hear a scary laugh. Laughter lets people into your character. It shows you are a happy person, therefore, more likeable. It just does the difficult job for you.

Admit your weaknesses

Everyone has a weakness. Whether it is admitted or not is discussion for another day. However, more likeable people tend to openly discuss their weaknesses, thereby destroying the pretence to be perfect. In return, you end up being liked more.

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