I am in deep trouble. I am married with two children, eight and one and half years old. Both are boys.
Things changed after we had our second child. She no longer loved me as much as she used to. Any time I used my phone texting or calling while I was in the house, she would get annoyed and accuse me of cheating. Whenever I showed her the texts, she would accuse me of deleting the ones that would have implicated me. Her paranoia made me switch off the phone each time I went back home to avoid arguments.
But this didn’t help as she continued accusing me, saying that I was switching my phone off to avoid conversing with ‘my girls’.
I got annoyed and told her never to ask me about my phone again. We live as strangers nowadays. This situation led me to find a girl to lower my stress levels. This girl is now four months pregnant for me.
She still lives with her parents and wants me to go and inform them that I impregnated her . What Am I supposed to do that? I don’t know how my wife will take this news when she gets to know. Should I tell her, or wait until she discovers it on her own? I can’t hold this anymore. I hate love!
What happened in as far as you are concerned is allowing yourself to be driven by lust. You were drawn to this woman and made her pregnant out of personal frustration that you were going through. You made a conscious choice to be intimate with someone to fulfil your short term fleshly desires. What you failed to realise is the consequences of sleeping together.
The pregnancy the came may appear a mistake, but it has at its core, a wilful desire to be unfaithful. I believe that confronting this issue soberly will be key for you and your future. The child is yours and deserves his or her father. On the other hand, the parents of the girl may want to know who made their daughter pregnant. It’s prudent for you to take responsibility and deal with the consequences.
What does he do?