Kate and Tony, both in their 40s, started dating after he met her in a social forum and sought her number. “I was excited because he seemed a good man and when he invited me for coffee, I did not decline,” says Kate.
She said he loved spending his free time with her and naturally, she assumed they were dating and would post their happy moments on social media.
Tony on the other hand never shared any of their photos on public forums and had even adjusted his Facebook settings so that he would be alerted first before anyone posting any photos of him and tagged him. But in hindsight, she admits it was more of a ‘situationship’ than a relationship.
“Every time I brought us up, he was always evasive. We had consummated our relationship and I had introduced him to my family,” confesses Kate. Whenever she asked him where the relationship was headed, Tony said he liked her but was not ready for anything serious.
Their relationship became rocky and they argued a lot, with Tony claiming he was feeling suffocated.
“You need to get a life outside me,” he once told Kate who could not understand why he did not want to settle down with her yet they were both mature.
Eight months into their relationship, he disappeared.
Kate here is just one of the several women in Kenya who think they are in a relationship but in actual sense, they are dating themselves. Before you start making noise about being in a relationship, make sure the feeling is mutual. Otherwise unaezajipata uko pekee yako.