Nice guys finish last, goes a social maxim. Many have been baffled at what criteria seemingly right thinking lasses use as they stumble from one bad buy to another.
The story on everybody’s lips right now is that of TV girl Jacque Maribe and her fiance, Joe ‘Jowi’ Irungu, arrested in connection with the murder of Monica Kimani.
Every new revelation about Jowi’s life reads like the script of a movie.
It does not end there. Mombasa Governor Ali Hassan Joho was for a long time, before the now infamous ‘handshake’, the veritable bad boy of politics. He was always in the news for giving Jubilee govement sleepless nights.
Around that time, the governor was a hit with the girls, at least on social media, with many expressing their love for him. So much so that the story made it to the front page of The Nairobian.
Many went on and on, on how Joho’s dramas made him ‘hot’ and attractive. Crazy Monday tried to find out why women seem to be more attracted to the ‘bad boy’ persona.
Hellen Akinyi, a city salonist, confesses to liking such men, these kinds of men usually come with dashing looks.
Akinyi says that despite the dirt that people say and write about them, bad boys swim into any woman’s heart easily.
She goes on to say that at times it could be anything from being draped in bling to having chiselled physiques and wearing signature bespoke suits that make them irresistible.
Another reason why bad boys are much loved by women is because of their love for and their natural way with women.
Jane Nyawira, a businesswoman, says bad boys use syrupy seduction and grand romantic gestures, which many women just can’t resist.
Oddly, a bad boy’s womanising habits make them more attractive rather than repulsive to women. Women feel compelled to shower these bad men with their affection, hoping that this will make them change their ways and cause them to see the folly of their ways. This, unfortunately, almost always never works.
A good number of the bad boys, whom women fall over each other trying to impress, tend to be endowed with resources of the monetary kind.
She says that the icing on the cake for one to become an ultimate bad boy is power.
True to form, history is replete with tales of scandalous bad boys like Pablo Escobar.
If reports from many women who had dated bad boys are anything to go by, then the allure of these men is irresistible. No matter how many times a woman has been hurt, they continue to seek them out.
For Alice Ngang’a, a banker who doesn’t like bad boys, women who fall for bad boys have self-esteem issues.
Alice says that some women who date bad boys suffer from what she calls a “fix him syndrome”. They, according to her, feel it’s their responsibility to fix men who have broken personalities.
She argues that most bad boys have a sort of tortured edge to them that attracts women. Whereas good guys don’t need fixing, which is why most women aren’t attracted to them.
Other women we talked to said they are attracted by the ragged physical looks.
Considering the fact that most women are attracted to physically built men, they tend to end up with bad boys because most of them happen to fit the bill.
Others like Sharon Mueni, a journalist, prefer bad boys because nice guys are boring and can’t excite a woman.
Predictability, a trait that most women we talked to associated with nice guys, always kills relationships. Once you become that nice guy who always buys flowers every holiday and does the same things over and over again, your lady might opt for the unpredictable bad boy who is mysterious and full of surprises.