Pictures of Deputy President William Ruto accompanying his brother to an engagement ceremony (koito) in Ziwa, Uasin Gishu County have emerged online exciting a section of Kenyans.
In the pictures, Ruto together with a section of his clan elders are seen inside the bride’s home negotiating for dowry payments as per Kalenjin customs. In another photo, they’re seen holding a traditional calabash (Sotet) which is usually a prestigious present from the Bride’s family. It is a sign of mutual agreement and strong bonding between the two families.
Uasin Gishu Governor Jackson Mandago, Kapseret MP Oscar Sudi and Soy MP Caleb Kositany are among the leaders who accompanied the AU envoy.
Just like other tribes, the Kalenjin community treasures pre-wedding (koito) and Wedding ceremonies so much.
About Engagement (Koito)
The bridegroom family goes to the bride’s home officially to meet them. Here the groom is required to attend the engagement popularly known as Koito. The grooms’ family which include uncles, aunts, grandparents, parents and the clan are invited into the room for dowry negotiations and know each other well. A proper introduction is done to prevent getting married to your own. As for each clan in Kalenjin community, they have a name of a totem animal to represent them, they call it ‘Tiondo’ and a clan name, ‘Oret’
Once both families are aware of their animal and clan name, they proceed to discuss dowry.
Dowry negotiations is usually a challenging affair. The bride’s family outlines the effort they have made in raising the bride to her age. They mention the benefit that the groom will get from marrying her hence demand enough appreciation.
Dowry differs amongst the Kalenjin sub-tribes. The dowry which is usually in form of cows, goats and sheep, differs depending on bride’s status.
After dowry negotiations, a ceremony is held where the bridegroom and bride are guided and advised on the new family. Gifts and presents are awarded.
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