Moving in with someone different is a big challenge. It sounds great and fun at the time to be around the love of your life 24/7 but it’s not reality. You’re two different people, raised in different homes with a different set of cultural values and norms. Now two people put together in this situation will have to be very mature about everything. These are the mistakes you need to avoid and things you need to be very realistic about.
1. Thinking it will make your financial journey easier
Sometimes moving in together may give you the opportunity to save on money but at the same time, you may find yourself tied in financial wars instead. You need to agree on who will pay for what otherwise money problems will be the end of you.
2. Not being able to compromise on differences
You are two different people from two different backgrounds one of you will have to adjust to the other person. However, you need to be open to learn new things from one another and compromise on your differences.
3. Not having a life
Yes, you have now moved in with this man but that doesn’t mean you now let go of all your friends and everything just to take care of a home. Men usually maintain their own lifestyles, they go hang out with their friends, go out and do their own things, please don’t be that girl who sits back to wait for her man in the house.
4. Lying you’re happy when you’re not
You have just moved in with the man you love but some things may be a bit strange and off as well. Please don’t lie to him when he keeps playing his horrible action movies, be open about the things you don’t like and lay down the rules ASAP.
5. Not doing things you both love
You are two people who have decided to live together so you need to do things you both love. You cannot live like roommates or house mates if you don’t take the time to merge your interests. Create a routine and schedule that will work for you like date nights or cooking nights etc.
6. Forgetting you’re two and not one anymore
You’re basically two people now which basically means that you can no longer act like you live alone. You can’t go and sulk in the bedroom or be on your phone all the time which will just make your partner uncomfortable.
7. Not being yourself
We get it, you want to look cute at all times and you wish to show yourselves as the best, you want to look cute and probably look your best when you wake up and not even fart in front of anyone. You need to be yourself, don’t be afraid of just letting loose and being yourself.
8. Not agreeing on who needs to do what
Chores! chores and more chores but who is meant to do what? You are certainly meant to decide on who does what otherwise you will seriously clash. Some men believe that the woman should do everything while other’s need to be constantly told what to do, so you need to decide on who does what and whether it will work for you.
9. Expecting to be super romantic at all times
You will not have sex every day, you will not always feel like you’re overwhelmed with love for that person but you need to know that there are days when you will be bored, days when you will want space and days that you will just want to laugh and have fun. You need to understand that it will not always be rosy but it gets better when you get that some days are won’t always be so great.
Living with someone is never easy but the most important thing is to make sure that you’re best friends who are not living together just because you want to split the bills but because you genuinely enjoy each other’s company.