Flirting is fun! It’s one of the most exciting phases of getting to know someone, and it can lead to a loving, long-term relationship. But let’s be real, we obviously don’t flirt just for the fun of it, or to boost our ego. Most of us do it in hopes of winning the attention and, eventually, the heart of someone we have our sights on.
Flirting can also get extremely frustrating. We spend huge amounts of time and energy on it, and when it doesn’t go the way we were hoping, it’s awful. Of course, not everyone is compatible or wants the same things you do, but there are many instances when you’re probably driving people away because you made a mistake.
It’s hard to figure out exactly what happened to throw someone off. Was something you did? Something you said? Well, in case you’ve been wondering, let’s go through 10 flirting mistakes to avoid at all costs, and make sure you finally land the relationship of your dreams!
Pretending You Are Someone You’re Not
Alright, we need to talk about this. Obviously, when you’re flirting with someone, you want them to think you’re perfect and, more specifically, perfect for them. It’s only natural that we want to be liked, and this is even truer when we’re trying to win over someone.
But if in an early phase you start coming up with little white lies that will make you seem more interesting, or that have something to do with his interests, you’ll end up stuck in a route you’ll find it hard to get out of in the future. Plus, you want people to like you for who you are, not a fabricated version of yourself—as cliché as it may seem.
Pretending You’re Uninterested
However, you also don’t want to do the complete opposite. This notion that pretending to be uninterested in someone, as if you’re doing them a favor by talking to them, in the hopes that will make them extra motivated to conquer you, is wrong. Why would you pretend you’re not interested when you very obviously are? Keep up the facade too long, and they’ll find someone who is.
Being Cocky
Cockiness is terrible. Acting like you’re full of yourself is not sexy, it doesn’t show you’re strong or independent, it just shows you are obnoxious. On the same note, bragging about all of the people who are interested in you is not a good move. Stay humble; truly confident people don’t feel the need to constantly scream how good they are. More often than not, it shows the opposite.
Inviting Jealously
This usually isn’t a good move in relationships, and it’s definitely not a good one when you’re flirting with someone. This person is relatively new in your life, and you’re still taking the first steps into becoming a potential couple. You want to be the best you can possibly be, correct?
If you’re on a date with them and start flirting with other people around, just to seem more desirable and unattainable, you’re making a huge mistake. Of all the things you can do to drive someone away, this is probably the easiest. Don’t do it, especially if you really like the person in question!
Being Completely Different On & Off Social Media
Look, we get it. Social media provides a sort of cover that didn’t exist before, the anonymity that invites expression without fear, and without consequences. You feel safe when there’s a screen between you and another person, which means you feel freer than you would in real life.
But keep in mind that if you haven’t met this person in real life, you will eventually. And if you are a completely different person, things won’t turn out as well as you’d wish. It’s a turn-off when someone flirts like a beast online, and barely says a word when you’re face to face. Be as genuine as possible, in all channels of communication.