There’s nothing more awkward than speaking to someone who can’t look you in the eye, and there’s nothing creepier than someone who seemingly can’t stop. Solving the problem of finding the perfect amount of eye contact is complicated by the fact that it really depends on the situation. Think about it: The sort of eye contact you maintain during a tantric sex experiment is going to be very different from the level of eye contact you maintain during an interview with a stranger whom you already have a haunting intuition doesn’t like you.
First impressions blah blah blah. Basically, if you’re on a job interview, you’re already keenly aware of just how little or how much eye contact you’re making. Honestly, even this seems a little much, considering you could be sitting far away from your interviewer and they keep blinking and the light is making it difficult to know whether their eyes are hazel, brown, rust-colored, or wait, are those contacts?
Alas, I know it’s annoying, but you sort of have to look your date in the eye if you hope to establish any sort of romantic rapport. Deep eye contact, and similar posture or movements are markers of deep engagement and that a date is going well.
But of course, eye contact during sex is a different matter. This specific eye contact alone is a powerful intimacy because direct eye-to-eye contact can convey romantic feelings without any words. Eye contact may feel unnatural because you’re looking at how someone else visually expresses their intimate pleasure.
