In any relationship, the most traumatizing experience dwells with infidelity.
No doubt cheating can severely shatter a solid relationship. Plus let’s not forget how damaging it is to the victim’s self-esteem; making them question their confidence altogether.
Why did he/she cheat on me yet I gave them everything?
Am I the problem?
The Worst Betrayal
These are just but some questions betrayed partners normally ask themselves as they ponder over their significant other’s actions.
Statistics speaking, men are more likely to cheat in a relationship as compared to women.
While Women are more likely to be committed to one partner for emotional and financial reasons
Take some time to reflect and acknowledge your feelings
Whatever the decision, be it jumping ship or deciding to stay in the relationship, you ought to analyze the emotions you have.
As a matter of fact, some of the most revered therapists in Kenya advise that anyone that is a victim of infidelity should take time to analyze how they feel.
After this, they can then decide on the subsequent decisions they would like to take in their life. This way, they can be prepared for the road ahead.
Moreover, when you take time to acknowledge those emotions, it’s also an avenue of healing after grieving.
In fact, relationship experts liken infidelity to having a major setback; particularly, that of diminishing trust.
Wanting Revenge on Your Partner
It also damages how one partner views the other, especially if the victim has just discovered the incidence of infidelity.
That’s why it’s advisable to keep your feelings in check before any decision-making.
One should not be influenced by their peers and family members to make a decision.
Infidelity is very stressful especially if the relationship has been solid for years.
Most partners end up severely traumatized, heartbroken for their undying trust betrayed by the love of their life
Do not blame yourself
The brains behind A Mighty Love, Demetrius Figueroa, advises that despite the instinctive nature of the victim to think themselves the reason for their partner’s infidelity, they shouldn’t think they are responsible.
Instead, they should try to analyze and rationalize the evidence before jumping into conclusions. Each individual is held liable for their actions.
There could be a number of reasons why he or she could have cheated, but at the end of the day, that choice was made by them.
Most sufferers of infidelity have a knack for blaming themselves rather than to analyze the situation logically and realize they are not to blame
Cheating is not necessarily the end of a relationship
For most people, they believe a relationship cannot be rekindled once one partner violates the sanctity of trust.
However, this should not necessarily be the case. If the perpetrator is genuinely remorseful about breaching the trust, you can have a discussion with them about understanding each of your request and expectations in the relationship.
However, you partner has to realize that it is their responsibility to build the trust you initially had for them.
Before the two of you decide to fix what is broken, here are some questions to ponder over:
Do you think that the relationship is fixable?
Are you only planning to stay due to financial reasons or maybe you’re scared you won’t find someone else?
Is your partner genuinely remorseful and confident that they will be capable of changing behaviors and actions?
Can you forgive and forget what has happened, and focus on the future?