After playing the cat and mouse of games of having your share of beautiful women, it gets to a point in time where a man decides that he wants to settle down and have a family.
Alas, after putting your loins to good faith and sampling a wide array of women, the body feels like it’s time to settle down and have a family.
Indeed, now is the time to get her pregnant. If you’ve been thinking of how to make this a success, here are some crazy tips that you can employ:
Don’t expect her to have orgasms during intercourse. On TV and in movies and pornography, women always seem to have orgasms during intercourse. That’s much more fantasy than reality.
In real s3x, only about one-quarter of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse.
The old in-and-out can be great fun, but it brings only a minority of women to orgasm. Three-quarters of women need direct stimulation of the clitoris.
The clitoris is the little nub of tissue that sits outside the vagina and a few inches above it beneath the upper junction of the vaginal lips.
Even vigorous prolonged intercourse seldom provides enough clitoral stimulation for orgasm. Most women really need clitoral caresses from a hand, tongue, or vibrator.
Unless she specifically requests intense touch, caress her clitoris very gently. It contains as many touch-sensitive nerves as the head of the penis, but they’re packed into an organ only about one-tenth the size.
As a result, even gentle caresses may feel too intense for many women. Discuss this. If she doesn’t enjoy direct clitoral touch, caress around her clitoris
Touch her all over, not just those places. From the scalp to the soles of the feet, every square inch of the body is a sensual playground, but too many men focus on just a few corners and forget the rest.
Touch her everywhere. All over. Every square inch. Think of s3x as a whole-body massage that eventually includes the genitals.
Whole-body massage produces deep relaxation, which helps women (and men) have orgasms. Massage her gently from head to toe.
Some non-genital spots that can feel surprisingly erotic include the scalp, ears, face, neck, feet, and the backs of the knees.
Slow down. Extended sensual warm-up time helps women have orgasms. Compared with men, most women need considerably more time to warm up to genital play. Forget the wham bam you see in porn.
When making love, do everything at half speed. S3x therapists recommend at least 30 minutes of kissing, cuddling, and whole-body sensual caressing before reaching between her legs.
Use a lubricant. Wetter is better. In just seconds, lubricant makes women’s (and men’s) genitals more erotically sensitive, so it helps women have orgasms.
In addition, for women experiencing post-menopausal vaginal dryness, s3x may feel uncomfortable without a lubricant.
The most widely used lube is saliva. It’s wet, free, and always available, but saliva dries quickly and it’s not very slippery. Vegetable oil is another possibility, but it can be messy and stain linens.
Try commercial lubricants. They’re safe, inexpensive, and slippery. If they dry out, they can be refreshed with a few drops of water, or just apply a bit more.
But don’t squirt lubricants directly on women’s genitals. That can feel cold and jarring. Squeeze some into your hand, rub it with your fingers to warm it, then touch her. Lubricants are available at pharmacies.
Break out of routines. Ever notice how s3x feels more arousing in hotels? That’s because hotel s3x is not routine. Biochemically, the brain chemical (neurotransmitter) dopamine governs libido.
As dopamine rises, so does arousal and likelihood of orgasm. What raises dopamine? Novelty.
So try something different—anything. Make love in a new location, in a different way, at a different time, or with a different ambiance, for example, candlelight, music, and s3x toys.
Beforehand, try bathing or showering together, or treat yourselves to professional massages.
Take a vibrator to bed. Even if you do all of the above, some women still have trouble with orgasm and need the intense stimulation only vibrators can provide.
Today, one-third of American women own vibrators, but few couples include them in partner s3x.
Some men fear being “replaced.” Nonsense. Power tools don’t replace carpenters. They just get the job done more efficiently. Vibrators can’t kiss and cuddle, or make women laugh, or love them.
They do just one thing, and some women need that one thing to have orgasms. Hold her close as you invite her to use the vibrator.