When entering into a lasting relationship, you have to first understand your authentic self. Not the self that you project to the world – the public persona you want everyone to see you as. The self that is often front and center only when you’re alone with your thoughts. Connect with this person in order to understand what you truly want in a partnership.
Even if you believe there are certain aspects of your inner being that you project outwardly, your social self and that which you return to in quiet moments will never be hundred percent the same. This is because the social version values the input of others and interacts with others to self-validate. Your loved ones will always feel as if they know you best and have your best intentions in mind when trying to match you with your dream mate.
When others play matchmaker, they tend to set you up with someone that they’ve known for a while, who they believe is a good person and will make you happy. This is because they only see one version of this person, just as they see one version of you.
This is why it is important to understand what will make you happy from the very beginning, before anyone gets hurt, including you! If you have a solid understanding of what makes you tick and what you need from a companion at the soul level, you are more apt to start connecting with someone who fills you up and matches your energy.